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April 20, 2007
Today’s Topic: People Who Are Pissing Me Off.
Why? Because I need to rant.
I’m giving you the Lani warning: there will be expletives in this blog. So if you’re faint of heart, stop reading now.
Consider yourself warned.
Lately, people have been annoying me. More so than usual, I mean. And I don’t think it’s just me. I refuse to believe that I’m an asshole magnet, or that all of the most irritating people have suddenly moved into my zip code. I think it’s them.
You know who I mean: them. You come across them every day. The line cutters, the movie talkers, the tailgaters of the world. The people who slap “My Kid Can Beat Up Your Honor Student” bumper stickers on their cars. Yeah, them.
They’re out there. And they’re spreading their assholiness, like some sort of cursed virus.
I haven’t watched Survivor in years. (It jumped the shark sometime after the season of the Fat Naked Guy and before the season of awful Boston Rob, Part One.) But I’ve always loved the concept of getting to vote the people you don’t like off the island. Because right about now, I’d like to vote several (thousand) people off MY island.
For example:
(1) Male Drivers.
I don’t mean all male drivers, of course. Just the really aggressive ones who try to intimidate female drivers. You know the kind – they cut you off, zig-zag dangerously in and out of traffic, and, at the slightest provocation, roll down their window and start screaming profanities at you.
Yeah, those guys.
Did you know that they don’t do that to other men? Well, they don’t. They just do it to women, probably so as not to risk an actual physical confrontation. Look at it from their assholish point of view: they can scream every horrible, nasty thing they can think up at the mom in the minivan with two car seats strapped behind her, and the odds are pretty good that the woman won’t climb down out of her minivan, roll up her sleeves and crack their head against the windshield.
The other day, I was driving my son to preschool when a guy suddenly made a dangerous turn in front of me, nearly hitting my car while doing so. Which was bad enough. But then he proceeded to make an abrupt and incredibly illegal u-turn on a side street, and pulled back in front of me without slowing down or apparently even looking. Had I not slammed on my brakes, I would have crashed right into him. And did I mention this all happened in a school zone?
So I honked at him, to point out that he was (1) an asshole, and (2) driving dangerously.
A half block later we hit a red light. The guy opened his door, leaned out, and screamed back at me, “What’s your problem, lady? Don’t your brakes work?”
At this point, my husband would like to believe that I remained cool and unflappable, and didn’t engage the lout in conversation.
“You can’t fight the crazy,” George always tells me.
Yeah, well. What I actually did was roll down my window and yell back, “What’s your problem? Don’t you have a license, you asshole?”
I think I stunned him. He sputtered for a minute, and then yelled back, “Well you have a nice day.”
I was wounded, I tell you. Not.
So I want all of them – those guys, the ones who go out of their way to try to intimidate female drivers – off my island.
(2) Neighbors with Barking Dogs.
I’m a dog lover. I have a dog. In fact, we’ve had a Dog in Residence here at the Gaskell house for years.
But as much as I like dogs, I don’t like it when they bark.
One bark is fine. An “I have to go out and tinkle” yap -- acceptable. A welcome bark to one of the neighborhood dogs out for their daily constitutional -- fine. The “there’s a large man with a crowbar attempting to break into the house” warning bark -- welcome, really.
It’s the constant, non-stop yammering bark of the variety that makes you want to drive an ice pick into your temple that I’m taking about.
My neighbor has one of those dogs. This is how it generally goes down: He lets her out. She presumably has a nice, leisurely tinkle. Maybe she makes a poo. Then she decides she wants back in. So she barks . . . and nothing happens. She barks again. Still nothing. Then she barks for four hours straight.
I work at home. I have a job that requires a certain level of concentration. I find non-stop, high-pitched stress barking to be a bit of problem.
So we’ve called the neighbor. (And by “we,” I mean “I’ve made George call him and tell him to stop leaving his dog outside all day.”) And the guy is always surprised to hear that his dog is bothering me. Because he apparently can’t imagine anyone not loving the sound of a dog barking non-stop for hours and hours and hours and hours on end.
Yeah, that’s right, buddy. I’m the freak here.
So I want him, and all of the other owners of barking dogs off my island, too. That’s right: the tribe has freaking spoken.
So now it’s your turn . . . who do you want off your island?
Posted by Whitney at 6:19 AM | Comments (11)
Comments
I'd like to throttle everyone who has their stereo turned up so loud astronauts could dance to it from space. Or maybe we could ship them off the really big island - Earth - and let them enjoy the noise in a vacuum. Like you, I work at home and require concentration. My neighbor playing 'Bette Davis Eyes' over and over for two hours straight isn't conducive to my working; the teenagers who drive by with their bass turned up high enough to shake my windows aren't helping either. Off they go. All of them.
Posted by: B.E. Sanderson at April 20, 2007 9:11 AM
I'll play, I'll play!
Little old ladies who think that because they are little old ladies that makes it okay for them to push in front of me on line. It's happened to me twice, recently. Once when I was visiting relatives in the UK, and once the other day in the supermarket. Sigh.
Men on the tram/bus/metro who sit next to you and then sprawl in their seat so that they're taking up half my seat. (This is where the pointy elbow technique comes in handy.)
Ditto people on the tram/bus/metro who put their bags on the seat next to them, even when the tram/bus/metro is full and the only spare seat is the one occupied by their bags (I always ask them to move the bags).
Posted by: Michelle C at April 20, 2007 10:40 AM
People in groups who walk two or more abreast on the sidewalk and will not move to allow for people moving in the opposite direction. I am always forced onto the curb or even the roadway or have them slam into my side because they are so inconsiderate of those around them. Bastards.
Posted by: Christina at April 20, 2007 11:14 AM
I've thought of another one:
People who hover over you in stores.
I swear, the store could be empty save you and one other shopper and whatever you decide to look at, that other shopper will immediately gravitate over and try to shoulder her way in.
Posted by: Whitney
at April 20, 2007 1:50 PM
There's so many I could be here all day. I'll limit myself to people who take two parking spots (I so want to key their car) and neighbors who get up at 7 AM and run their weed wackers, lawn mowers, leaf blowers right under my bedroom window when they are retired and could do it any time of the day.
Posted by: catslady at April 20, 2007 4:31 PM
Right now on my list we have litter bugs and impatitent people on the bus who feel the need to shove past me before the driver even comes to a stop (much less opens the door), when really since we are all getting off the bus, it will be fine.
Posted by: RandomRanter at April 20, 2007 4:50 PM
As a bus driver, Random, I can relate to you gettting irritated with those idiots that rush to the doors of the bus to be ther first one off. As a bus driver, however, I can tell them to sit back down until I come to a complete stop--they are in my line of vision and they aren't going to get off the bus any sooner by standing there. Those same people are the ones who push past wheelchairs to get on the bus first, and I usually throw out a rather imperious hand in their face and say "STOP! I didn't ask you to get on the bus yet!!" and they have to back off and then I leisurely proceed to load the wheelchair while muttering obscenities under my breath at the rudeness of some people... (Wow--THAT was a long sentence!).
My personal issue right now is also concerning a dog. Like you, Whitney, I can't stand a barking dog and I have three that do like to vocalize a LOT if they are outside. Chula likes to bark at the one neighbor behind us, Boo yaps while he is playing with Lucy, and South--well, he just likes the sound of his own voice. I keep them inside most of the time because of this. But lately my neighbor's little dog is getting in my yard and four of my other neighbors' yards. Not only is he getting into their yards, apparently he is now getting into my one neighbor's HOUSE through the doggy door. The other day she came home to find him chasing her cat through the house! Her dog was quite upset with his prescence in the house but there wasn't much she could do about it--she's not aggressive at all.
My daughter has the guy on speed dial that owns the little pest--he's at his wit's end on how to keep him in his own yard. So I would say people who just let their dogs run loose are my particualr rant--so unsafe, they poo and pee on MY property, and they bother MY dogs who must bark and carry on because they see him in their front yard (or back yard, depending on the little nuisance's mood that day). I can understand once or twice, but this is a several times a WEEK sort of occurance anymore. I would be absolutely mortified if one of my dogs caused such a ruckus!
Posted by: Sheri at April 22, 2007 10:53 AM
Sheri!
The wheelchair thing! I just spent the weekend travelling to San Diego and back with my mother who is in a wheelchair. What are these people thinking? Add the people who sit in the spots reserved for the Disabled and don't move out of them when they see someone approaching with a person in a wheelchair.
On our way down to SD, there was a man travelling with his father who was in a wheelchair and he actually wanted to strategize an organized assault on the airplane door with us. We called him Colonel and made him sound the cavalry charge when they announced pre-boarding. I'm not sure he thought it was as funny as Sissy #2 and I did. . .
Posted by: The LC Eileen
at April 24, 2007 11:01 AM
I'm a little late to comment on this but I couldn't pass it up! LOL I seriously have contemplated many times how living on my own deserted island is ideal.
The first people to go would be the people who leave their young children unsupervised. Like my neighbors who expect their 8 year old to be responsible for their 3 year old and don't think anything of their brood playing in the street (without shoes and at one point with only underwear.)
The other are people who put their children in danger in the car. There are seatbelt/car-seat laws for a reason. Seeing a toddler in the front seat is not my idea of good parenting. Grrr
By the way, Whitney, I had the same dog problem as you. I annonymously sent my neighbor a letter about how there are many methods to keep a dog from barking and thoughtfully provided a list of things proven to help with a barking problem. I then also mentioned what the law in our county said about the problem which could result in fines. Funny enough... I never had a problem after that... :)
Posted by: Amber at April 24, 2007 6:18 PM
My turn, My turn!!!
Freakin' Customer SERVICE people who would rather be totally bitchy than to answer a simple question or two. Have they forgotten that I'm the customer? And while that doesn't mean I'm always right, it does mean I deserve a little common freakin' courtesy. And car salemen who try to convince you to get a different car than what you want. "It's ONLY $3,000 more," he said. I replied, (through clenched teeth) "I don't want a 4 door Jeep... I want a 2 door Wrangler." And still he tried to convince me, the dumb chick, of what I really wanted. I knew more about that freakin' Jeep than he did - and he treated me like I was the dumb one. BLAHH! Okay, my heart is racing and I need a smoke now. Time to calm back down to my normal self who doesn't say freakin' every other word. Thanks for giving me the chance to get that off my chest! Whew!
Posted by: Jamie at April 24, 2007 11:03 PM
Whitney, are you living my life? The other day a man ran a red light and then cut me off, pulling into my lane. When I honked, he slammed to a halt, then pulled up alongside me (illegally of course) at a red light and screamed, "F*** you!!!!" out his window. That's right: f*** me, because he ran a red light to cut me off.
AND my neighbor's dog yaps at me IN MY OWN HOUSE until I call my neighbor, who is always shocked to hear that it's bothering me.
Although today, the person who is bothering me is the mom at gymnastics who has an opinion on everyone. else's. kid.
Posted by: Julie at April 25, 2007 6:09 PM


